What is holding you back? Keeping you stuck?

The answer is simpler, albeit more complex than you might think.

What we feel influences what we believe and what we do.

What we believe influences what we do and feel.

What we do influences what we feel and believe.

Essentially, the impact of trauma (which is more common than realized), as well as the consequence of insecure attachments with primary caregivers, has shaped the way you see this world, others, yourself, and maybe even God. And that is what is influencing your mindset and habits.

Your search for safety, security, and belonging is an equally strong driving force.

So the real question, then, isn't what is holding you back?

Rather, the way forward is to develop a habit of checking in with yourself while exploring your beliefs and emotions in order to identify what steps you can take so that you may embrace the possibilities of change as you choose to stabilize and thrive.

A - AWARENESS

How did you get to this moment? What is happening around you?

Consider what you've experienced in the last few hours to days, as well as your broader life story, that is impacting how you are showing up in this moment.

R - REFLECT

What is happening in your body? What sensations do you notice? What emotions do you feel?

Pause to notice what is happening in your body. Where are you holding tension? Where is the fear or anxiety showing up? What are you feeling? Start with the primary emotions of sad, mad, glad, and afraid, and then consider more complex emotions.

I - IDENTIFY

What are your beliefs about yourself, others, and this situation? 

Learning how to identify helpful versus harmful beliefs about your situation, yourself, and others is necessary for choosing the next best step. Ask yourself the question: What is the evidence of that? 

S - STRATEGIZE

What are your options, opportunities, and solutions?

Not every challenge needs to become a debilitating crisis or obstacle to moving forward. Consider how a challenge may be a setup for something better. Learning how to assess the situation and the options is an essential life skill that leads to resiliency. 

E - ENGAGE

What is your next step? Be specific and realistic.

Engaging in the process of growth requires taking action with purpose and intentionality. Set a S.M.A.R.T. goal. Ask for help from a friend. Book a coaching or counseling session to get the support and accountability to move forward. 

Would you like more help on developing practices to help you become stableminded? Don't hesitate to reach out for a session.